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Maintaining a positive father-child bond through divorce

It is never a pleasant experience for a child to have to witness his or her parents getting divorced. As the father, handling your child's questions and emotions poorly at such a time can result in long-lasting damage to their psyche, while also causing great harm to your relationship. Here are some steps you can use to help save your relationship with your child throughout the divorce:  

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Protecting your finances during divorce

Divorces are tricky, and there's no telling how much of your money and assets you could end up losing to your spouse in the end. That is why it's a good idea to take steps right from the start to protect your finances in preparation for the divorce. One of the first steps to take is to make a careful evaluation of your marital assets, account balances and how much of your money is invested in joint assets.

 

Important changes to Illinois divorce laws

A significant shift has been witnessed in the divorce laws of Illinois. These changes are of prime importance for men going through a divorce. While in the past the father had to pay more and lose custody of the child as well, the law has now been amended to allow for a more collaborative parenting approach. The changes made to the law will help reduce conflict and establish better equity for former spouses. 

The new laws seek to address what many saw as the failings of the legal system in giving justice to both sides of the divorce party and protecting the rights of both the husband and the wife. The very definition of a family unit has undergone a paradigm shift, and the new laws seek to address those changes with a fairer and more equitable divorce procedure.  

4 ways to deal with a difficult ex-spouse

Marriage can be all sorts of rewarding, but divorce is often the exact opposite. While marriage comes with its own set of frustrations, divorce is a whole new ball game. This is particularly true when your ex chooses to be difficult rather than working with you on important issues like child custody, child support or alimony. Financial issues are typically touchy after a divorce, and there is little you can do if your ex decides they want to punish you. You can only control the way you act, so the following tips can help you deal with a difficult ex.

Understanding the new child support law in Illinois

Divorces and determining child support can be confusing for many parents. A new child support law is on the horizon in Illinois and will certainly lead to more questions about calculations and obligations. While the law does not go into effect until July 2017, it is important for divorced parents to understand how the law will affect them. 

How To Make Co-Parenting Easier

Let's face it, while incredibly rewarding, parenting also comes with many challenges. For parents who are divorced or separated and who share child custody and parenting responsibilities, these challenges are often compounded by communication problems and a general failure on the part of parents to come together and get on the same page.

Even under the best of circumstances, parenting is difficult and co-parents must work even harder to ensure that they are providing their children with the love, support, boundaries and consistency they need to be happy and thrive. The following are three things that co-parents can commit to doing to improve their relationship with each other and, most importantly, their children's lives.

Paying support for child's college education

Generally, child support payments stop when a child reaches the age of 18 and is considered an adult. However, Illinois allows a divorced parent to file for college expenses, asking their ex-spouse to help support their child through college. This is especially relevant if the child likely would have had access to college education if their parents had not divorced. The amount a child can receive will depend on a number of factors.

Alimony order requirements and proceedings

Alimony, also called spousal support, refers to provisions made by one spouse to another after a separation or divorce. Alimony is not a requirement for divorce, and nowadays most courts stay away from granting alimony. It is up to the judge, however, to decide whether alimony orders need to be issued or not.   

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