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Parenting through a divorce and beyond

It's 5:30 on a Saturday night. You head to your 15-year-old daughter's room, knock on the door and ask her to come down to eat. As usual, you're met with silence. Several requests later, you pry open the door at which time she yells at you to go away. This scenario, or something similar, is one that plays out in American households on a regular basis. While all parents struggle at some point or another to connect with a child, for divorced parents these types of struggles can be particularly difficult.

While extremely rewarding, at times, parenting can also be difficult and frustrating. All children present unique challenges and all parents also have their own hurdles to overcome. For divorced parents, time spent apart from a growing child may further complicate and intensify many of the struggles that accompany parenthood.

Finding the strength to let go and move on

Love is a powerful emotion that often drives people to do crazy things. In some cases, however, what a person believes to be love is something entirely different. This is often the case in many intimate relationships where a person stays in a marriage or relationship for the wrong reasons.

There are many reasons why an individual may choose to stay in an unhappily marriage. For example, children are often used as an excuse by many parents who fear a child wouldn't be able to cope with a divorce. In reality, however, it's likely a lot more difficult and traumatizing for a child to live with two unhappy parents who are constantly fighting or engaging in passive-aggressive behaviors. Children are incredibly intuitive and may be adversely impacted when living in a tense and unhappy household.

Charlie Sheen seeks to modify child support payments to ex-wives

When parents make the decision to divorce, emotions run high as factors related to child custody are decided. In most cases, the spouse who retains primary custody of a child is granted child support. Several states, including Illinois, calculate child support amounts based on a payee's income and the number of children he or she has.

In cases where an individual's financial situation changes, he or she may petition the court to reduce monthly child support payments. It's also possible that a judge may grant a reduction in child support for other reasons. Charlie Sheen is no stranger to controversy or legal disputes. Most recently, he's requesting modifications of child support payments he makes to his two ex-wives.

Recent ruling delivers big blow to rights of unwed fathers

Most parents never forget the day their son or daughter enters into world. For many fathers, witnessing or being amongst the first to hold a newborn son or daughter provides an opportunity to bond with a child and an important and positive step towards forging a life-long and positive father and child relationship.

A recent judge's ruling in one state, however, serves to strip some fathers of their right to both be present during a child's birth or have access to a baby immediately after birth.

Research debunks theories on link between cohabitation and divorce

In the past, gender roles were largely dictated by society. As such, both men and women grew up with certain expectations related to what to expect from one another and society at large. As such, the vast majority of men and women did not live together until after marriage. Today, the only real rule related to gender roles is that there are no rules.

The percentage of unmarried U.S. couples who live together has increased 900 percent in the last 50 years. The dramatic increase in the number of cohabitating couples has resulted in a number of studies being conducted related to the matter. While previous studies seemed to indicate that cohabitation prior to marriage was a precursor to splitting up or divorcing, new research refutes such claims.

Joint debts live on after a divorce. How to protect yourself

In a divorce, it is important to protect your financial interests, whether it is by securing proper spousal support or child support, or by ensuring that your marital debts are equally divided. In the process of reaching a financial settlement it is also prudent to make sure that jointly held debts do not come back to haunt you years after the divorce decree is signed.

This is especially important given the many promises that are made, and even reduced to writing and secured in a court order. After all, people’s financial circumstances could change, and such changes may affect you even though you are no longer married.

With that, there are two important considerations that divorcees should aware of. 

Could shared custody be the new standard?

The standard presumption for parenting when couples get divorced is a controversial topic. Essentially, emotions run high when parents split up, and there may be instances where a parent may not want to share parenting roles. Moreover, some parents may have a sense of entitlement based on gender roles in parenting, and that this dictates who should be the custodial parent going forward.

However, America is changing, and with it, parenting roles are changing as well. As such, a number of state are taking steps to make equal parenting a presumptive standard in divorce cases. According to a recent USA Today report, state legislatures in Maryland, Arkansas and Connecticut are considering such initiatives. 

Improving economy contributes to divorce rate

Few of our posts have focused on the economic implications of divorce. After all, the recession likely contributed to the historic drop in divorces. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, divorces hit a 40-year low in 2009 (the height of the recession). However, as the economy has improved, the number of divorces has increased. 

How to plan for spring break vacations

Around this time of year, it is normal to yearn for green grass, palm trees and sandy beaches. It is nor surprise that you may be seeing an additional number of Sandals vacation commercials. The same with Royal Caribbean Cruise Lines. But if you are newly divorced or have problems with your ex over parenting time, planning a spring break getaway can be fraught with issues.

This can be especially challenging with the looming threat of additional school days being included to make up for the unusual rash of snow days that have been given this winter. Nevertheless, the following tips can be helpful in resolving difficulties in planning spring break vacations.

Clues suggesting your attorney may be the problem in your divorce

If you think there are problems with your divorce proceeding, it may be easy to blame your attorney. After all, you hired your lawyer to protect your rights and assert your interests as you begin a new life. However, there may be situations where your attorney is not the problem, and the law is simply not on your side.

In such emotionally charged situations, it may be difficult to differentiate between the two. However, there are certain clues that can guide you to the truth. This post will highlight some of them.

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