Butler Giraudo & Meister
Peoria 309-407-3332
Morton 309-263-1204

Communicating with a child about divorce

The decision to divorce is often a difficult one to make. Once that decision has been made, it's important that both spouses take steps to ensure for their own emotional and financial wellbeing. Complicating matters are strong emotions, vivid memories, shared finances and, in many cases, shared children.

Parents who decide to divorce are often extremely concerned about how a child will be affected and worry whether he or she will suffer mentally or emotionally. In truth, every child is different and while there's no way to predict whether a child will adjust easily or have a more difficult time, there are things parents can do to make the process easier and less stressful.

Communicating with a child openly and honestly and providing support and love are key to helping a child cope with divorce and all the changes it brings. One of the most difficult, yet critical, first steps in this process is informing a child about the divorce.

When informing a child of an impending divorce it's important that both parents are in attendance and are able to present a united front. It's also important to set and agree upon ground rules when it comes to handling difficult questions or reactions. Parents would also be wise to ensure they select a time to deliver the news when a child has ample time to process the information and ask questions.

Once a child is aware that his or her parents are planning to divorce, parents should anticipate and be prepared to answer additional questions. Depending on a child's age, he or she may experience a range of emotions including sadness, confusion and anger. Parents should do their best to empathize with a child and provide reassurance of both parents' unconditional love.

With all the changes that accompany divorce, the process can be especially difficult for children. In cases where parents believe a child is having an especially difficult time dealing with these changes, it's wise to seek professional help.

Source: The Huffington Post, "9 Things To Consider Before Telling Your Kids About The Divorce," Armin Brott, July 26, 2014

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information
  • I cannot even express in words the level of gratitude that I feel. ‘Thank you’ doesn't seem to be enough. Please know that your services and compassion will never be forgotten! I am forever grateful!

  • Thank you so much for your hard work and expertise. I feel as a father in the state of Illinois that what I am trying to achieve is nearly impossible. I am so glad I chose to have your office full of extremely intelligent women represent me.

  • We would like to say thank you for your expertise, education, and kindness when we met with you! Your confidence has helped to comfort us and give us hope that resolution of the issue is possible.

  • I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your time, energy, and efforts you put into our case. Thank you for helping make our son's quality of life better. I cannot tell you how happy we are!

More Testimonials
Contact Us Today

Contact Our Lawyers About All Areas Of Family Law

We are driven and committed to a successful outcome for all of our clients. To arrange a consultation with attorney Susan Butler, Kelly Giraudo or Tamara Meister, call 309-263-1204 (Morton) or 309-407-3332 (Peoria). You can also contact our law firm by filling out the form below. With offices in both Peoria and Morton, we work hard for our clients while getting to know them as people.

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information
disclaimer.

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.

close

Privacy Policy

Morton Office
100 S. Main Street
Morton, IL 61550

Toll Free: 888-314-9667
Phone: 309-263-1204
Morton Law Office Map

Peoria Office
416 Main Street
Commerce Bank Building
Suite 927
Peoria, IL 61602

Toll Free: 888-314-9667
Phone: 309-407-3332
Peoria Law Office Map

Morton Office Peoria Office