Even a seemingly smooth divorce process can be difficult for both parents and children to navigate from an emotional standpoint. Thus, battles involving child custody and other similar issues can cause even greater emotional stress -- stress that can have long-term implications. A few tips might help people in Illinois to reduce the stress often associated with the divorce process.
First, it is important to realize that most children understandably want to spend time with, and enjoy their time with, both parents. Acting jealous or angry when one's child spends time with an ex may make the child feel as though he or she has to take sides. In the child's mind, he or she has to love one of the parents more than the other one.
Next, it is beneficial to say positive things about the other party or simply avoid saying anything whatsoever. When one mentions negative things about one's ex, a child might feel pressured to take one's side. In reality, the child naturally depends on both parties to raise him or her and teach him or her what is important in life.
If two divorcing individuals in Illinois are willing to work out child custody and other related matters on their own through divorce mediation or another type of negotiation, they may be able to put together a mutually beneficial parenting agreement. This offers the benefit of enabling both of them to feel more in control of their own situations while also paying attention to the children's needs and wishes. If negotiations fail, then the parents must prepare for a trial, which can, unfortunately, lead to a more stressful situation for the entire family.
Source: nj.com, "Kids have advice for parents who divorce | Parenting with Pete", Peter Herbst, May 18, 2016