Like most parents in Illinois, you want what is best for your children. With a joint custody arrangement, both you and your ex continue to parent your kids after a divorce. Even if you remain on good terms with your former spouse, though, co-parenting often presents some unique challenges.
If you can keep your ex happy, you can likely avoid protracted legal disputes. While you probably do not want to give in to your former spouse’s every demand, rocking the boat can be a big mistake. Here are three post-divorce parenting habits that will probably please your ex:
1. Leave your marriage in the past
Your marriage may have been a disaster. While it can be unbelievably difficult to leave anger and resentment in the past, doing so is probably best for you, your children and your ex. Rather than letting past emotions affect your daily life, focus on being a great parent. Further, when you talk to your former spouse, only discuss the kids instead of rehashing old marital arguments.
2. Acknowledge that you do not have all the answers
Raising children is not easy. Whether you have one child or many, you probably do not have all the answers to parenting questions. If you think your ex knows better, ask for advice. Using your shared parenting experience to mend fences is usually not a bad idea.
3. Be careful with the company you keep
Even though your ex may not want to be with you, he or she may have difficulty accepting your new love interest. While you should not let your former spouse dictate your relationships, you should try to respect sensitive emotions. Being careful with the company you keep may help you avoid parenting conflicts.
Parenting in a post-divorce situation can be challenging. While you must figure out what works best for you and your ex, with a bit of effort, you can likely ease tensions. Rather than intentionally angering your former spouse, you may want to choose your battles carefully.